What Trauma Isn’t - Even If Social Media Says It Is
With the word “trauma” everywhere on social media, it’s easy to get confused about what truly counts as trauma and what doesn’t. While it’s important to validate people’s distress and struggles, it’s equally important to understand the clinical definition of trauma-so you can get the support you need and not feel overwhelmed by misinformation.
Trauma is not just any stressful or unpleasant experience.
According to the DSM-5, trauma involves exposure to “actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence.” This means that while losing a job, going through a breakup, or having a bad day can be extremely upsetting, they aren’t considered trauma in the clinical sense unless they involve a real threat to your life or physical safety.
Social media often blurs these lines.
On platforms like TikTok and Instagram, it’s common to see everyday discomforts or setbacks labeled as “trauma.” This oversimplification can make it seem like any challenge or disappointment is traumatic, which isn’t accurate. Social media content is designed to grab attention, not to educate, and often misses the nuance that real trauma is complex and deeply disruptive.
Why does this matter?
Diluting the meaning: When everything is called trauma, it can trivialize the very real and serious impact of actual traumatic events.
Misunderstanding your needs: If you believe every distressing experience is trauma, you might not seek the most effective support for what you’re actually going through.
Reinforcing helplessness: Overusing the term can make people feel powerless, rather than resilient and capable of growth.
What trauma isn’t:
A bad hair day, a tough week at work, or a disagreement with a friend.
Everyday stressors, disappointments, or even most arguments.
Any and all negative emotions or memories.
What trauma is:
A deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms your ability to cope-such as serious accidents, physical or sexual assault, natural disasters, or witnessing violence.
It’s okay to feel upset by life’s challenges.
Not everything distressing is trauma, and that doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t real or valid. It just means you might need different kinds of support, and that’s perfectly normal.
If you’re unsure whether your experience counts as trauma, a mental health professional can help you sort through your feelings and find the right path forward. Remember, healing and growth are possible - no matter what you’ve been through.